Have you ever tried: Flossing every day. Eating smaller portions. Writing thank you cards. Clicking “Purchase Items” less often. Criticizing your neighbor less.
All that could be smart advice, which devolves to brutal badgering of yourself.
Easier thought than done.
Break a bad. Build a good. Not so easy breezy.
One thing can help build or bOne thing can help build or break just about any habit: inserting a space between stimulus and response. That is, the thing out there in the world (or inside you), that causes a particular reaction (stimulus), and the resultant behavior/action (response) you think you wanna start or stop, increase or decrease.
Take a pause.
Use a breath to pause. A full one. A belly one. Feel your sides expanding. Relaxing your neck and your face.
That might powerful as is. Or, you could dive deeper. Activate BRAIN.
Nurture and nuorish.
- Breathe. It’s already happening (breathing) but you can bring awareness to it to add fullness or depth or patience.
- Reflect. Think about what is happening. “Hmmm,” you say. “What am I thinking right now? How is my body feeling?”
- Allow. Don’t push it away. Let it be. You’re in the ocean. You can’t stop the waves. You can surf, or just float.
- Investigate. Ask questions. “What’s next?” “What do I want to be next?” “How would moving my body or changing my location change my thoughts and feelings?”
- Nurture. Access your profound inner kindness. Be profoundly nice, encouraging, patient, confident.
Take BRAIN pauses to help start or stop, increase or decrease, any habit.